Whether it is a grudge, a negative emotion, a loved one, or even a ratty old sweater from your old boyfriend from high school, letting go is never easy. But, letting all that emotion and/or junk (sometimes it's both) just stay in your head and heart is like letting it all live rent free while mooching off of your kindness, generosity, and space, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and physically.
As I drive and somebody cuts me off and then slows down, I'm PISSED! I ride them. I zoom pass them and flip them the bird. And even after all that is said and done, I'm still driving too aggressively. Let it go!
Ever have a relationship/friendship that just sucked the life out of you? Your friend borrowed your favourite whatever and never gave it back. Then she confesses she actually lost/damaged it. Let it go! He's a great guy, just not a great boyfriend. As much as you think you are perfect for each other, you fight more than you are happy together. Let him go!
I had many sentimental items from passed loves. Letters he'd leave in my locker, poems about his undying love, dried flowers from all the birthdays, anniversaries, valentines, and just-because days, dolls he won me from The Ex, clothes I've borrowed when it was cold, books that you thought I'd enjoy, etc Combine that with my hoarderness and I have way too much stuff. Time to Let it go!
Sometimes I'm too quick to let go. I'm sure if I stuck by some people, I'd still have them in my life. But, I have enough drama I certainly don't need any extra. Don't get me wrong. I am not a fair-weather friend. I will do all that I can to help you, but I need you to also help yourself first. I don't tolerate slackers very well. There's time to slack. I'm far from a workaholic these days. I recognize what's a priority for right now. Definitely different then in our youth when we lived in an apartment downtown with no kids. Maybe some people I've let go too quickly without giving them a real chance to stay in my life. But, why live with regrets. I make the best decision based on the information I had at the time.
I don't hold on to dead weight. It just slows me down.
